Individual Relationship Counseling

Do you find yourself feeling insecure, anxious, or frustrated in your relationships? Do you feel stuck in an unhelpful pattern with dating, committed relationships, family, or friendships?

Humans are social. We are hardwired to seek out relationships, yet we’re rarely taught how to nurture them or when to leave them. That’s where relationship counseling comes in. Relationship counseling combines attachment based therapy and interpersonal approaches to help you break free from patterns that may be holding you back—so you can cultivate love, trust, and connection.

Difficulty with forming and maintaining healthy relationships often results from how we have learned to react to people in our lives. In therapy we will explore your past relationships and how they influence your current relationship patterns.

Relationship Counseling FAQs

    • ​History of unhealthy relationships

    • Noticing old negative relationship behaviors in your new relationship

    • How your family impacts your relationships

    • How to set boundaries

    • How to end a relationship

    • Difficulty communicating with your partner

    • ​Fear of rejection

    • ​Fear of abandonment 

    • Sex, desire, intimacy

    • Low self-esteem

    • Modern dating 

    • Creating closeness too quickly, becoming deeply attached to someone you just met

    • Fearing rejection so much that most of your relationships feel “surface level” or that you struggle to create closeness

    • Not being able to say no to your partner or constantly putting their needs above yours

    • Struggling to communicate your needs to your partner without becoming emotional, upset, or angry

    • Desiring closeness but finding yourself pulling away

  • Someone with anxious attachment may feel insecure in relationships and may seek attention and love in unproductive ways. They may stay in unhealthy relationships for too long, may push people away to test if they truly love them, or be constantly on guard for signs of rejection. People with this style tend to fear abandonment and rejection. They are often people pleasers and may lose themselves in relationships in an attempt to try and avoid rejection.

  • People with an avoidant attachment style tend to feel uncomfortable when others get too close and may find themselves creating distance, pushing away, or not feeling as much attraction to a partner if the relationship becomes a committed one. People with this style worry that they will have to compromise too much in a relationship and fear loosing their sense of self and identity. When someone with this attachment style feels lonely or upset they often retreat into themselves, work, or other hobbies to self-soothe.

  • No, I do not provide couples counseling at this time. If during the course of our work, we decide couples counseling would be beneficial, I am more than happy to connect you with a couples therapist.